I worked the 9-5 life for a ten years. TEN YEARS! You guys that is a long time! Over the years, I developed a schedule. Wake up, get ready for work, go to work, gym, home, dinner, dishes, repeat. Weekends were spent cleaning my house, spending time with family and seeing my friends. I never felt like I had enough time for all the things I wanted to do, but hey, my life was orderly and that made me feel good.
And then I started a business and everything changed. I was working very long hours, weekends, evenings, pretty much all the time. I had a pile of dishes, an even bigger pile of laundry, and I was lucky when my house was anything coming close to clean. It’s ok, I thought, this is just how it is when you are starting up. It will get better. And it did, for a while. I started to hire employees, I gained some of my time back, and I breathed a huge sigh of relief – now, surely, I could have my “normal” life back again.
I stopped working on the weekends. I my house was the cleanest it’s ever been. The laundry was always nicely folded and put away. I went out for coffee with friends. I felt like I had order in my life. Heck, I had a life again and oh my gosh did it ever feel amazing.
You don’t need more time
Slowly, I started to get frustrated. My business seemed to stall and plateau. I didn’t feel like I was getting anywhere and I certainly wasn’t achieving the things I wanted to achieve. I started to feel like if I just had more time I would be more successful. But how do I get more time? There’s only 24 hours in a day. Maybe I just needed to get better with managing my time? But I knew that wasn’t the answer. What then?
I was thinking this recently and I suddenly realized:
I was choosing to do laundry over working on achieving my dreams.
The reality is, I get to choose how successful I am. And by choosing to do chores rather than working on my business, I am holding myself back from the success I want to achieve.
Do I want the laundry to always get done? Yes. Do I want to make sure my house is sparkling clean? Also yes. But do I want these things MORE than I want to build a successful business? No.
Which means that the laundry can wait. I’m busy building an empire and achieving my dreams.
YOU get to choose how successful you are in achieving your goals, but you have to decide for yourself what you are willing to sacrifice to get them.
This applies to all aspects of your life, not just building a business.
Want to run a half marathon? You will need to set aside time to train. To shop for the very best running shoes. To figure out what is the best food to eat to fuel your runs.
Want to eat healthier? You will need to set aside time to plan what you will eat every day for every meal. You will need time to make a list and go buy those things and meal prep for the week ahead. You might need to invest a bit more money into your nutrition.
If you don’t think you have the time to do those things, I get it. That’s what I thought too. But the reality is you DO have the time, you are just spending it doing other things. So decide right now – today – what you do want this MORE than? Do you want it more than you want to have a perfectly clean house? Do you want it more than the newest phone? Do you want it more than going out with your friends every single weekend? What are you willing to set aside to make room for your own goals? Your hopes and dreams are important and they deserve your time.
But you have to commit. You have to really truly choose to devote your time to pursuing your goals.
I call it “levelling up”. There is a very small percentage of people run a half marathon. That become the healthiest version of themselves. That launch successful start ups. These are exceptional achievements. And if you want to achieve something exceptional, you have to level up and put the extra effort in.
That’s not to say you can’t have some down time. Self-care is incredibly important and burnout is a very real concern for many people that dream big. Take the time you need to decompress and take care of yourself. But if you find yourself folding laundry every single day rather than working toward your goals? You know in your gut that the laundry can wait. Your dreams are more important.
If you want to level up AND you still want the dishes to get done? Ask for help. Once your friends and family know what you are trying to achieve, they will (hopefully) want to help. Ask your partner to take care of the dishes while you figure out your meal plan. Ask your mom to watch your toddler while you make a strategic plan for your company. If you ask for help, you will be amazed how many incredible people you have in your life that want to contribute to your dreams.
Decide today. Tell us in the comments what your goals are and what you want it MORE than.